I had lunch with T.Puzzle this week at school. I wasn’t able last week because I was under the weather. That fact that I had to skip out on him didn’t phase him one bit. He told me that ‘he wasn’t going to miss me at all’ and proceeded to apparently have a perfectly wonderful lunch without me. His indifferent attitude had me questioning scheduling a lunch with either of my boys. Was it possible that only I benefitted from this weekly check-in? After further investigation, T.Puzzle admitted that yes, he would still like to have Mom come for lunch but he is okay if for some reason I can’t make it. I didn’t wait for him to change his mind and told him I would seem him soon.
As I sat at the parents’ table with him, his teacher stopped by and graciously thanked me for my emails. She said that she appreciated staying in touch. What she doesn’t know is that for every one email I send her, I’d actually like to send about a thousand more. I wish she would live tweet or video stream every significant move T.Puzzle makes. If T.Puzzle learned something, she should let me know as quickly as possible. If he gets out of line, if he exhibits outstanding behavior (we all have dreams, don’t we?), if he says something cute or funny…basically, if he does anything at all, I want to know about it. Same goes for Full Speed and his teacher, too.
Instead, I constantly coach myself to leave my kids and their teachers alone. I fill my time in other ways while always holding images of what I picture my boys doing at school (I tend to picture them doing only amazing stuff, it’s much more fun that way), and that has to be enough. It doesn’t feel like enough, but it has to be.
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I am the same way you are about wanting to be really connected with my boys’ school teachers (it would rock it there was a live video in the classroom so I could spy on my kids and see what they are up to all day) and I have to refrain from emailing her all the time. I wish our school had a parent table and invited the parents to come eat lunch with their kids, sounds like fun!
It has been a challenging transition for me as I had to go from micromanaging my boys’ days to not knowing what they are doing minute by minute (thank goodness I can have the occasional lunch with them!). I know all stay at home Moms go through this, but it is not easy. What keeps me sane is that my boys are happy and love their expanding independence. For that I am thankful.