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Losing It (Soccer, Teeth and Otherwise)

In the first game of our 3v3 season in U8 soccer, our roster of four (consisting of one eight-year old and three six-year olds in a division against seven and eight year olds), we held our own.  While it ended in a tie, it was hard-fought and everyone gave their best effort.  T.Puzzle even managed to score his first ever legitimate goal.  In his selective remembering, it is his second goal.  He is under the impression that last fall he scored.  The truth is, and we haven’t had the heart to explain it, he had kicked it in the direction of the goal and while he had turned away to run his victory lap, a teammate actually nudge it in the last couple feet.  So, we all celebrated as he got his ‘second’ goal.  Naturally, before it even crossed into the net, he raced down the field with his arms victoriously extended in World Cup-like enthusiasm. His joy was contagious. 

The second game our World Cup dreams were quickly dashed as an opponent, who it’s very possible drove himself to the field because he seemed adult-sized compared to our team, drilled goal after goal into our net.   The younger kids kept on going while Full Speed broke down.  When you are a passionate competitor like Full Speed, losing is like taking a bullet.  In this case, it was like taking bullet after bullet.  Ouch, ouch, ouch, ouch….

In the end, I didn’t mind that we lost and badly.  It turned into a great opportunity for the boys to learn about life.  Sometimes things don’t go your way.  It doesn’t matter what the outcome is as long as you handle yourself with dignity.  Yes, Full Speed was crushed but he survived.  Our focus in the future is to teach him that win or lose, life goes on.  However, it’s a lot more fun when you are the one scoring all the goals…just ask T.Puzzle!


In addition to scoring his 'second' and 'third' goals, T.Puzzle lost his very first tooth.  Quite a day for this World-Cup future phenom!
In addition to scoring his ‘second’ and ‘third’ goals, T.Puzzle lost his very first tooth. Quite a day for this World Cup future phenom!
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Coach warms up his team.

If you are able to step back from the everyday details of motherhood, greater lessons are there for the taking.  I never knew being a soccer Mom could be inspirational.  I’m so glad there were those moments in the season that made me proud of my boys (all three, go Mad Dog!).

Brothers march down the field

This summer Mad Dog coached the boys in a winning season of 3v3 soccer.  When he initially moved T.Puzzle up a division, I balked.  The first set of games that I watched my 5 year-old go up against seasoned 6 and 7 year-olds, I almost fainted from anxiety.  Thankfully, the little man held his own.  I guess having a big brother beat you up on a daily basis toughens you up.  It took me to about mid-season to relax a little (I’m talking a tiny, little bit) and enjoy the games unfolding before me.  I still never enjoyed when T.Puzzle would be launched across the field because of his lack of body weight.  I did love that no matter how many times he got knocked to the ground, he always got back up and back in the game.

T.Puzzle is crushed to the field as the seemingly giant players from the opposition bring the heat.
T.Puzzle goes head to head with a player who is thankfully, more his size.

As for Full Speed, this is the season he learned that your mental game is crucial to achieve your peak, physical performance.  For the last set of season ending games, only him and my nephew (who is only 5 like T.Puzzle), were available to play.  That meant they had to play two against three for three, 24 minute games with zero substitutions.  In the final game, Full Speed pulled a miraculous 5 goals out of his back pocket leading them to a 6-1 victory.  After the game Full Speed told Mad Dog, “My body wanted to quit on me but my mind wouldn’t let it.”

How’s that for inspiration?

A determined Full Speed keeps on going!