Happy Holidays, motherhood

Life Lessons of 2017

It’s hard to believe, but another year is drawing to a close.  To date, this has been a year of tremendous change as Full Speed became a teenager (!) and T.Puzzle jumped more solidly into the double-digit realm.  It’s not the age-number per say, 13 and 11 respectively, but the growth and maturation I’ve seen from them.  It’s been a lot to process as I am seeing more clearly the young men they are becoming.

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Full Speed is on the left, T.Puzzle on right

T.Puzzle continues to surprise us.  He developed a love of distance running.  How Mad Dog and I produced a distance runner is still a bit mystifying, but it is awesome that T.Puzzle is finding his own interests and pursuits.  LEGO construction and playing video games remain firmly at the top of his list, but nice to know that he likes to get up and go sometimes, too.

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Full Speed became a middle-schooler this year (it starts in seventh grade in our region) and he has adjusted beautifully.  He shows leadership to his classmates willingly coaching them through Algebra assignments, and has a zest for presentations in class.  A recent assignment in Civics had him debating school politics and he was in his zone.  Leadership qualities and a passionate debater, hmmm…does that sound like anyone we might know?  He also learned that not every dream is realized as he tried out for his school’s soccer team and didn’t make the cut.  My favorite part about this life lesson was his genuine happiness for a long-time friend and classmate who did make the team this year.  It’s not to say Full Speed’s given up on soccer forever, but oh my, isn’t there a wonderful world of possibilities out there waiting for him?

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One of the very best parts of 2017 was the addition of our newest family member, Miss Lady.  She is by no means a perfect dog, but she absolutely has been the perfect dog for our family.  She keeps things lively here which I’m not so sure our senior resident (Little Guy) appreciates.

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Little Guy’s shocked expression captures the essence of his disbelief at the amount of his new sister’s energy.

If you ever need to feel like you are the most amazing being alive, come on over and hang out at our house for a while, Miss Lady will not disappoint with her enthusiastic snuggles and love for you.

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Miss Lady is as sweet as she looks.

Mad Dog continues to travel all over America and then some as the scope of the call centers he oversees grows and grows. As hard as it is to be away from him sometimes, I see how fulfilling his position is and know it is keeping him challenged and inspired. That’s truly all I want for all three of my boys, to be challenged and inspired.

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As for me, I’ve made a little more space in my life for the things I enjoy.  I continue to walk our dogs every day, have started a daily yoga routine and write as much as possible.

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Life is short so whatever brings us joy is absolutely what we should pursue.  It’s as simple as that.

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Hope you had beauty-filled 2017 and that the lessons that lie ahead for all of us keep us growing in the direction of love.

Happy Holidays!

 

 

motherhood

The Story of a girl and her Buckeye (the Prequel)

Now you know the girl had a happy ending.  She found true love and had two, awesome little Buckeyes.  But, there’s more to the story.

Before there was the Buckeye, there was just the girl.  She was a quiet girl.  She grew up tucked away in the cornfields of Illinois in an unassuming one-story house on an unassuming tree-lined street.  This quiet girl loved her Mom dearly.   When the girl would arrive home from school she would find her Mom watching the Cubs on WGN.  At first the girl didn’t think much of baseball, but she thought much of her Mom.  Over time, she was slowly indoctrinated with a die-hard love of the Cubs.  It was in her genes passed all the way down from her Grandmother.  You can’t fight genes.

The girl’s bond with her Mother, and remember, they already were quite close, grew stronger over a shared love of the Cubs.  The Cubs were often uninspiring to watch and even though the girl and her Mom cringed each time Harry Caray slurred his way through a seventh inning stretch, they were faithful to their team.  Of course, there were moments of glory.  The ’84 Cubs stirred hope in their hearts and while this season brought great joy and this amazing song-  Men in Blue – it ended in heartbreak as practically every Cubs’ season does since the dawn of time (boo Padres!).

So, how exactly does the Buckeye factor into all of this?  Turns out, he was not much of baseball guy (growing up, soccer was more his thing), but attending college on the far, far north side of Chicago lends an easy transition to Cub fandom.  The girl suspected initially his fandom was less about the baseball and more about the ever-available and free-flowing beer of the Friendly Confines’ bleachers.  No matter, he was a Buckeye who grew to appreciate the Cubs.

And, that’s how they met. The girl, her Mom, her Aunt and Cousin all travelled to Navy Pier to go on a Cubs’ charity dinner cruise.  There, they got to meet their favorite players (yes, the girl still has a soft spot for Mark Grace), and there, the Buckeye was.  He was seated at the table next to them.  He was with friends and the girl didn’t notice him at first. However, SEVERAL other girls noticed the Buckeye (the girl didn’t find this out ’til much, much later).

The Mom, the girl, the Aunt and the Cousin on that fateful night
The Mom, the girl, the Aunt and the Cousin on that fateful night

To her credit, the Cousin recognized the Buckeye appeared to be without a date.  Being that she knew the girl was very, very single, encouraged the girl to talk to him.  Initially, the girl did not agree to talk to the Buckeye as she was skeptical of all men, but since she was giddy at having schmoozed with so many handsome Cub players, she reluctantly agreed.  He offered to take her to Wrigley Field and watch a game from the bleachers.  She had never watched a game from the bleachers and as a die-hard fan, this offer was extremely tempting.

It took a couple weeks, but eventually, the girl and the Buckeye set up a date.  The girl wasn’t very nervous as she had all but given up on love.  She was just happy to get a free ticket to watch her Cubbies in person (she was also extremely poor at the time).  She took the bus from her northside neighborhood and met the Buckeye at his apartment on Sheffield.  Yes!  He actually lived across the street from Wrigley.  Wow!  Maybe this Buckeye was something special.

the charming Buckeye grilling on the deck of his Sheffield apartment
the charming Buckeye grilling on the deck of his Sheffield apartment

The girl didn’t know it, but she pretty much fell in love with the Buckeye right off the bat.  As we know, the Buckeye was a lot slower in this regard. A. LOT.  So began their up and down romantic history which included countless bleacher games at Wrigley Field.  It wasn’t always a fairy tale, but it turned out amazing in the end (the relationship, NOT the Cubs’ season).

Once they were married and raising their boys Buckeye, they still followed the Cubs closely.  However, soon after starting their family, tragedy struck.  The girl’s Mom got sick and passed away so suddenly, it crumbled the girl’s world completely.

The girl’s heart was shattered into a million pieces.  She didn’t understand how just when her little Buckeyes were getting more awesome every day, that her Mom wouldn’t see them grow up.  She wouldn’t be there to call when the girl didn’t know if she was mothering them correctly.  She wouldn’t be there to laugh with, or cry with.

The girl was lost.

Six years later, the girl was still a little bit lost without her Mom to anchor her.  And, during those six years of grief, the girl couldn’t bear to watch the Cubs and not just because they were terrible (as they usually were), but because watching them without her Mom was too deeply painful.  It hurt her soul to watch them.

The girl was pretty sure she would never love baseball again.  She focused on her little Buckeye family and let the Cubs drift slowly away from her.

Somehow, the Buckeye sensed under all her hurt, that the girl still loved baseball.  This baseball season he made a decision.  He would get the girl access to all the Cubs’ games on TV and download an MLB app on her phone (which is awesomely addicting).  The girl doesn’t know how he knew she was ready, but she was.  The brokeness of her heart, while not quite fully healed, had scarred over enough that it made watching the Cubs bearable.  Actually, she had healed enough that she was excited to watch them play.  Hearing the crack of the bat, watching a perfectly executed double play and hearing the fans of Wrigley cheer made her happy once again.  She couldn’t believe it.  And, to add to her happiness, her two little Buckeyes have shown the beginnings of their own Cubs’ genes emerging.  Finally, she could share something with them that was unique to her.  It was amazing-ness.

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Time doesn’t necessarily heal all wounds, but it makes it possible to live life anew.  While the girl will never share a Cubs’ World Series victory with her Mom (or with anyone for that matter given the Cubs’ history), she can at least remember she really does love baseball.   She really does love her Buckeye and she really does love her boys.

And, she really was the most blessed daughter to have had a Mom as special as the one she was given.

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Love you always, Mom.