If you actually complete all your ‘to-do’ lists on a daily basis during the holiday season, it is easy to lose yourself. Sure, you may have all your presents bought and started addressing your holiday cards, but where is the love?
It is so easy to get swept up in the momentum of holiday madness. You say ‘yes’ to your child’s classroom teacher, you say ‘yes’ to buying more presents, you say ‘yes’ to giving all that you are and then some.
Maybe ‘no’ is something worth considering.
What if we all said ‘no’ a little bit more this season and focused our ‘yesses’ on the people we cherish most in this world?
I certainly am thinking of three guys that I would love to hang out with more as Christmas and the New Year approaches.
Mad Dog and I had a date night planned so we could Christmas shop for the boys. While at Super Target, Mad Dog lobbied for a miniature version of our Christmas tree for the boys’ room.
Full Speed and T.Puzzle were fast asleep when we returned home. Mad Dog silently placed the small tree in their room. We tiptoed out and anxiously anticipated a big reaction once the tree was discovered in the morning.
They boys were dazzled.
There was much animated discussion on how the tree came to be in their room. The idea that made the most sense were elves of course.
Later that morning T.Puzzle tried to explain to his teacher about the mysterious tree.
“Who do you think put it there?” she asked.
“I think it was robbers,” he suggested his eyes wide with certainty.
I love a good thief. Not only did this ‘thief’ not steal a single item from our home, he or she left it beautifully decorated.
Whew! Full Speed had a whole week off and T.Puzzle stayed home most of the week, too.
You know some mayhem ensued.
Oh how it did.
We were a busy bunch.
The week started with a ‘date’ for Mom and Full Speed.
The boys saw Santa with their cousin.
We celebrated Thanksgiving and Mad Dog’s birthday. And yes, as a nation, I do believe in our entirety, we felt extreme gratitude that Mad Dog’s birthday coincided on this special day. Or something like that.
Then, Mad Dog and I celebrated his birthday again as Grandma, Grandpa and Aunt Pink graciously hosted our boys. Upon our return, it is unlikely they will be invited back anytime soon. Apparently, someone really needs to talk to their parents about their rowdy behavior. Our apologies.
Then, if all that wasn’t enough, we decorated our Christmas tree. I tried oh-so-hard to let the boys do their thing without anxiously hovering about. They seemed to have fun and I did too, just as long as all our breakable ornaments were hung at the top of the tree (by me!).
By the end of the week, we had two very tired boys on our hands.
When all was said and done, the thing that I am most grateful for is that I was actually sad to send them back to school because we had so much fun together.
Mothering these two strong spirited boys has not been without challenge. To be able to say that I am honestly going to miss them as they trounce back to school is a turning point.
I am learning that even though there were days during vacation that they drove me to tears with their outlandish and stubborn behavior, I am now beginning to see the emergence of who they really are underneath.